Understanding Bereavement Through Spirituality! ……. Part 3 Of 5

Understanding Bereavement Through Spirituality! ……. Part 3 Of 5

Blame comes in two parts, the first is aimed at “others” are to blame.

Blaming is also a way of devaluing others, by trying to escape the inevitable

The end result is that the blamer wants to feel disconnected from the event.

Others are seen as less worthwhile making the blamer “perfect”.

Off-loading blame means putting the other person or persons down, this is done by emphasizing his or her flaws. But I can tell you that this initial relief will be short lived.

The truth always needs to come out in the end.

But the fact is that when a person can not take responsibility for their own actions then its just a matter of time itself before you lose all sight of reality.

The best and kindest thing any one can do for them selves, is to own up to situations as and when they present themselves, if you feel that you can share these responsibilities’ with out blaming any one else then I can promise you that by taking charge and taking on the responsibility yourself, you will become 10 times more powerful than you can imagine.

Shying away from what is in essence a gift or sign for you to change something, will devalue your own self respect and every one else’s if you try blaming others.

When blame is used through bereavement it’s a very normal process to go through but please don’t dwell on it as it can not serve you in getting over your sorrow.

The second part of blame is when its undeserved blame based on actions beyond your control but feel compelled to self blame. By becoming the victim you experience behavioural self-blame. This will make you feel that you should have done something differently, and therefore feel at fault. Life is Life and we can have little and no control over other peoples lives, even our own lives are at the mercy of what will be will be.

Having a Spiritual belief will ease your lack of understanding of many things in life that can not be explained through science. Just remember that we are not here to understand everything in life and especially the things that can not be seen, touched, heard, smelt or tasted. A belief or a knowing of the unknown will serve you more through your life than any thing else you could possibly dream of. We will all meet up again one day so just think of your lost loved one as a holiday that they went on before you and that they will send your ticket as and when you have also completed your own work here on earth as they have done before you.

This was part 3 of 5 to come in  “Understanding Bereavement Through Spirituality!

Part 4 Of 5 will be about facing DEPRESSION, I look forward to seeing you here again soon.

All my love……………Brian.

Feel free to look at my web site at www.bjacoaching.co.uk

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About bjacoaching

Hi, my name is Brian, I am a Life Coach / Personal Coach but I am also a very straight forward talking person that shares more in common with you than you will initially believe. Why and how can I say this? Because we are all basically the very same. We are all in search of the best life possible and we all need the very same basics such as happiness, love, health, and enough money to get bye with. When any of these things I mention above are scarce or in short supply then it will affect us in a dramatic way. So not only as a Coach but as an individual with foresight I will on occasions display a different take on things based upon reality as we see it and more importantly how we can choose to perceive it. As an individual I think out side the box and would encourage you to do the same as and when it might be necessary. The very fact that you are here means that you were meant to arrive here at precisely this moment in time as I believe in synchronicity and I do not believe in coincidences only things that actually “co-in side” which in mathematical terms means to fit together perfectly. But if you have already been here before then I must be doing something right. I am a very down to earth person that has learnt many many things from hardships and also from joy in my life as I am sure you have too. Get involved with me and I shall show you many things that will at very least get you to question or challenge many things that until now you either took for granted or never even thought possible. Whether you are religious or not does matter because for me it’s not important as long as you are happy with your own values and beliefs then that’s all that matters. If however you are not sure about your happiness or any other issues in your life then just keep an open mind and see how things can change. I am inviting you to go on a journey and for such a journey you will need some basic tools. A compass, a map and some survival essentials. These items are metaphoric of course, and represent the following: Your compass has to be your intuition and self belief, your map will be your actual goal or desire and you must understand where you are at this particular point in your life right now, other wise how will you know which direction to follow if you do not even have a starting point on your “life map” your survival essentials are going to be tools you require to help you survive and prosper through your journey, and these will be “coaching tools” that I can supply when required. I suppose it’s all going to be a matter of how much you desire your needs How important is it for you to get to where it is you wanted to go in your life? What will happen to you if you do not get what it is you are after? Can you truly allow your life to slip by with out reaching your target? All I know is that many people give up on there life’s desires and dreams just because they have tried a few times and then decided that its either too much like hard work and chosen to believe it just not going to happen.....WRONG! The truth is yes they have tried but they have not had the right guidance, tools or coaching to help them…that’s it! That’s the only reason! If you try to get there alone it will be a long and troubled journey. But if you have some one that’s been there before then they can give a wealth of information that will fast track you there before you loose interest or the will to achieve. A coach will make you accountable and support you every time you feel yourself going off track. My blog will be a free helpful tool that at very least will give you a few different ideas about many different things….So Enjoy! http://www.bjacoaching.co.uk/3.html
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