Understanding Bereavement Through Spirituality! ……. Part 1 Of 5
There are five aspects or emotions to bereavement: The first is DENIAL, the second is ANGER, the third is BLAME, the fourth is DEPRESSION and the final part being the fifth is ACCEPTANCE or TAKING CONTROL….
Denial Denial is the first we label out emotions on as it is such a shock! How on earth could this have happened, surely there is a mistake, why me? Why has this happened to me? What have I done to deserve this? The thoughts go on and on. If we can deny something in our lives then all of a sudden we can take a break from dealing with it, it is now not true, it makes it all better for that short-term. The Denial stage will keep going until there is an emotional shift and we are ready to accept the situation. Having a spiritual belief in something, someone or with the universe will always help us all in many different ways. Spirituality is an individual thing that we feel is right for us, we just connect to nature, to mother earth, to an energy that feels good to us. We don’t even have to explain it or give any explanations as to how it works, no need for gatherings or rituals that are cast in stone. No, it is just connecting with a force that we believe exists, we just know that there is a force out there that’s bigger and greater than ourselves. Breaking up with your Partner / Lover etc, is very much the same, if we are in the denial stage then you will not be able to process the coming events with ease. They will just become reasons to feel great unhappiness and will only slow down the healing process. Thus making the separation all the more painful and not allowing you to move forward with strength. Accept the reality, don’t be in denial, come to terms with whats happening, its for a reason and there are lessons to be learnt. Dig deep inside and be brave enough to accept that it is real and it exists in your reality, how you deal with it will be down to your own spirit. So accept that its real and that it is here as a coping mechanism for the short-term as you get emotionally ready to move forward. Remember that when you believe in any spiritual energy then even after death or any loss of love there is another life awaiting for us, you see, it is only the end of a particular chapter. There will be other chapters to experience, you simply just have to believe in and know that the next page does exist, you just need to find the strength to look at them.
This wass part 1 of 5 to come in “UnderstandingBereavement Through Spirituality!
Part 2 Of 5 will be about facing Anger, I look forward to seeing you here again soon.
All my love……………Brian.
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