Understanding Bereavement Through Spirituality! ……. Part 1 Of 5

 

Understanding Bereavement Through Spirituality! ……. Part 1 Of 5

There are five aspects or emotions to bereavement: The first is DENIAL, the second is ANGER, the third is BLAME, the fourth is DEPRESSION and the final part being the fifth is ACCEPTANCE or TAKING CONTROL….

Denial Denial is the first we label out emotions on as it is such a shock! How on earth could this have happened, surely there is a mistake, why me? Why has this happened to me? What have I done to deserve this? The thoughts go on and on.   If we can deny something in our lives then all of a sudden we can take a break from dealing with it, it is now not true, it makes it all better for that short-term. The Denial stage will keep going until there is an emotional shift and we are ready to accept the situation.   Having a spiritual belief in something, someone or with the universe will always help us all in many different ways. Spirituality is an individual thing that we feel is right for us, we just connect to nature, to mother earth, to an energy that feels good to us. We don’t even have to explain it or give any explanations as to how it works, no need for gatherings or rituals that are cast in stone.   No, it is just connecting with a force that we believe exists, we just know that there is a force out there that’s bigger and greater than ourselves. Breaking up with your Partner / Lover etc, is very much the same, if we are in the denial stage then you will not be able to process the coming events with ease. They will just become reasons to feel great unhappiness and will only slow down the healing process. Thus making the separation all the more painful and not allowing you to move forward with strength.   Accept the reality, don’t be in denial, come to terms with whats happening, its for a reason and there are lessons to be learnt. Dig deep inside and be brave enough to accept that it is real and it exists in your reality, how you deal with it will be down to your own spirit. So accept that its real and that it is here as a coping mechanism for the short-term as you get emotionally ready to move forward.   Remember that when you believe in any spiritual energy then even after death or any loss of love there is another life awaiting for us, you see, it is only the end of a particular chapter. There will be other chapters to experience, you simply just have to believe in and know that the next page does exist, you just need to find the strength to look at them.

This wass part 1 of 5 to come in  “UnderstandingBereavement Through Spirituality!

Part 2 Of 5 will be about facing Anger, I look forward to seeing you here again soon.

All my love……………Brian.

Feel free to look at my web site at www.bjacoaching.co.uk

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Hi, my name is Brian, I am a Life Coach / Personal Coach but I am also a very straight forward talking person that shares more in common with you than you will initially believe. Why and how can I say this? Because we are all basically the very same. We are all in search of the best life possible and we all need the very same basics such as happiness, love, health, and enough money to get bye with. When any of these things I mention above are scarce or in short supply then it will affect us in a dramatic way. So not only as a Coach but as an individual with foresight I will on occasions display a different take on things based upon reality as we see it and more importantly how we can choose to perceive it. As an individual I think out side the box and would encourage you to do the same as and when it might be necessary. The very fact that you are here means that you were meant to arrive here at precisely this moment in time as I believe in synchronicity and I do not believe in coincidences only things that actually “co-in side” which in mathematical terms means to fit together perfectly. But if you have already been here before then I must be doing something right. I am a very down to earth person that has learnt many many things from hardships and also from joy in my life as I am sure you have too. Get involved with me and I shall show you many things that will at very least get you to question or challenge many things that until now you either took for granted or never even thought possible. Whether you are religious or not does matter because for me it’s not important as long as you are happy with your own values and beliefs then that’s all that matters. If however you are not sure about your happiness or any other issues in your life then just keep an open mind and see how things can change. I am inviting you to go on a journey and for such a journey you will need some basic tools. A compass, a map and some survival essentials. These items are metaphoric of course, and represent the following: Your compass has to be your intuition and self belief, your map will be your actual goal or desire and you must understand where you are at this particular point in your life right now, other wise how will you know which direction to follow if you do not even have a starting point on your “life map” your survival essentials are going to be tools you require to help you survive and prosper through your journey, and these will be “coaching tools” that I can supply when required. I suppose it’s all going to be a matter of how much you desire your needs How important is it for you to get to where it is you wanted to go in your life? What will happen to you if you do not get what it is you are after? Can you truly allow your life to slip by with out reaching your target? All I know is that many people give up on there life’s desires and dreams just because they have tried a few times and then decided that its either too much like hard work and chosen to believe it just not going to happen.....WRONG! The truth is yes they have tried but they have not had the right guidance, tools or coaching to help them…that’s it! That’s the only reason! If you try to get there alone it will be a long and troubled journey. But if you have some one that’s been there before then they can give a wealth of information that will fast track you there before you loose interest or the will to achieve. A coach will make you accountable and support you every time you feel yourself going off track. My blog will be a free helpful tool that at very least will give you a few different ideas about many different things….So Enjoy! http://www.bjacoaching.co.uk/3.html
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